One birthmother’s story

I had an unplanned pregnancy last year. Yeah maybe I should have been on birth control or kept my legs closed.  I could have even gotten an abortion but I thought that it might ruin my chances of having kids in the future.  So I didn’t… I chose adoption.

I love people; I really I do. But sometimes you just can’t do things right in everyone’s eyes.

Not that I really give a care what anybody thinks of me except for the people that are in my everyday life.   I chose to put my child’s need before what my heart wanted. In my heart I wanted to keep her and raise her with my fiancé, but I didn’t.  I chose a wonderful couple who kept their promise as I kept mine.

October 10, 2015, marks one year that I spoke to this couple for the first time. I have no regrets. I chose what was best for my daughter. In my heart and mind I am at peace.  I didn’t “sell my baby”; I hate when people say that!  I chose for her a life that I couldn’t give her… A life without struggle, a life without needing or wanting, a life full of love and part of that love comes from me.

What I am most grateful for is the support that I have received from the Adoption & Family Support Center and our birth mother support group, Placement from the Heart. With them I have gained another family, shared love and found people who understand what I have been through.  Society looks down on women who put up their children for adoption, and this couldn’t be farther from the truth. These women, myself included, have made sacrifices for their children.  We deal with heartache and pain every day, and live with a hole in our hearts that can never be filled.

So next time you want to judge someone that has placed a child for adoption ask them their story first. I guarantee you will have a whole different perspective.

Nicole- a birth mother…and so much more